I remember when I began watching Grey’s Anatomy. It would have to be something major for me not to be sitting on my couch on Thursday night. Whether it was the Meredith and McDreamy’s love story, or Christina Yang’s fire that epitomized the best friend that many of us wish we had in our back pocket to either inspire us or kick our ass whenever we need it, Rhimes provided us with enjoyable, edge of your seat entertainment.
Transitioning from young and single TV watcher to a married, business owner with children TV watcher, has definitely changed my TV watching habits. I lost touch with Grey’s Anatomy, after its first few seasons but I jumped back on the ShondaLand bandwagon when Scandal joined Thursday night. Olivia and her gladiators drew me into their story lines. I enjoyed watching Shonda take her plots to the extreme and looked forward to weekly episodes and the next day discussion that followed.
Although life often gets in the way of Thursday night TV watching and wine drinking, I am thankful for modern comforts, such as Netflix, that allow me to binge watch at different times to catch up on juicy dramas that I’ve missed!
The creativity that oozes from Shonda Rhimes’ shows has always intrigued me. I always wondered about her as a person. She was rarely in the public eye. When I heard that she had written a book, I quickly found myself on Amazon and had a copy sent to me. Wow! Was it ever worth shipping it to Turks and Caicos! This book is great. Not only is it inspirational, but it is hilarious. I found myself laughing out loud, and not the kind of ‘lol’ that is overused in social media, but literally laughing out loud at public coffee shops…the kind of laughing that makes people turn and look at you.
Shonda shared about her childhood. She shared about her young adult years, about college, about becoming a mother, about her family and friend struggles. She shared about her fear of saying ‘yes’ to so many things in her life. This book birthed out of a journey that she took as a result of her older sister observing and sharing that she never said ‘yes’ to anything. After some reflection on her sister’s comment, she decided to start saying ‘yes’ more often. She acknowledged that although saying ‘yes’ to the things that freaked her out and created anxiety was overwhelming, it also had the potential to change her life. She decided that by doing the things she feared, she actually was taking the fear out of the ‘doing’ and that make things a lot less scary.
In this book, Shonda shares so much about her life and her journey during the year of yes. I call her Shonda now, because after reading that book, I feel like we are good friends. We have known each other for years and been through so much! This is the type of biography that makes you feel as though you are connected to the author.
So as 2015 comes to a close, I encourage you to read this book. Whether you like it, or you don’t, it will surely give you some things to think about as you enter into 2016. It reminds us of the importance of pushing through discomfort. It’s not easy, and it forces us to be vulnerable, but when we do, it can have a large positive impact on our lives.
I would like to close out the 2015 by leaving you with two of my favorite quotes from ‘The Year of Yes.’
“There is no list of rules. There is one rule. The rule is: there are no rules. Happiness comes from living as you need to, as you want to. As your inner voice tells you to. Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you are supposed to be. Being traditional is not traditional anymore. It’s funny that we still think of it that way. Normalize your lives, people. You don’t want a baby? Don’t have one. I don’t want to get married? I won’t. You want to live alone? Enjoy it. You want to love someone? Love someone. Don’t apologize. Don’t explain. Don’t ever feel less than. When you feel the need to apologize or explain who you are, it means the voice in your head is telling you the wrong story. Wipe the slate clean. And rewrite it. No fairy tales. Be your own narrator. And go for a happy ending. One foot in front of the other. You will make it.”
"I am not lucky. You know what I am? I am smart, I am talented, I take advantage of opportunities that come my way and I work really, really hard. Don't call me lucky. Call me a badass.”
Happy New Year!